Chief Justice Diana Bryant of the Family Court of Australia should be commended for her attempts to address Domestic Family Violence.
Unfortunately there are a number of Judges and Family Court Staff that either have no understanding of Domestic Family Violence, or do not wish to. If you refer to my previous blogs I name and discuss some of the experiences I have seen at the Family Court and I am appalled by the treatment of Family Domestic Violence Victims.
I have seen women lose their children to perpetrators time and time again. It is deplorable and it is an Epidemic. Approximately 50% of Australian Children are growing up in Families with Domestic Violence.
It is time the Family Court of Australia addresses their inconsistencies and protects children and parents from violence.
This is a publication from the Family Court of Australia outlining basic affects Domestic Family Violence has on children.
How does family violence affect children?
Children’s exposure to family violence can take many forms, including:
being subjected to deliberate or accidental violence
intervening on behalf of a parent or other person,
and experiencing the aftermath of violence, such as being cared for by a distressed or withdrawn parent helping to care for a hurt or distressed parent seeing injuries and/or property damage
helping clean up mess or damage going to the doctor or hospital with an injured parent being present when police or emergency services attend,
and/or being asked to not tell anyone about the event.
Effects of family violence on parenting behaviour Perpetrators of family violence frequently:
show a lack of warmth
use coercive and manipulative tactics
are inconsistent with discipline
use harsh discipline
express anger towards the child/ren,
and are uninvolved in parenting.
Exposure to violence can result in the victim parent: changing the way they parent in front of the abusive parent to avoid more anger and abuse being less able to meet the child/ren’s needs due to the stress of the abuse experiencing depression and other mental health problems that can affect parenting, and using harsh discipline due to stress (this has been found to stop when the family is safe).
Children generally experience more than one type of exposure to family violence.
This may be different for each family, or for children within the same family, or at different times within the same family.
Effects of family violence on children Children of all ages have been found to have more problems when they have been exposed to family violence, particularly coercive and controlling family violence.
Research has consistently found that children who are exposed to family violence have higher levels of emotional and behavioural problems than children who have not.
Children who are in violent homes are also at a greater risk of physical abuse or having their physical and emotional needs neglected.
Younger children are more vulnerable than older children because they are with their parents more frequently, and are more dependent on their parents for care and protection
. Teenagers exposed to family violence may be more aggressive to their parents and other acquaintances and constantly be at greater risk of retaliation.
Children exposed to family violence are at greater risk of: having difficulties controlling their emotions developing depression or antisocial problems such as delinquency or violent behaviours, particularly as teenagers
developing poor relationships with both parents
developing poor reading and language skills
, and having difficulties making and maintaining friendships. When family violence is combined with other problems,
such as drug and alcohol abuse and mental health concerns, children are at even greater risk of developing emotional,
behavioural, social and educational problems.
Not all children are affected in the same way by family violence.
A range of factors have been identified as being ‘protective’ for children, such as:
parenting that provides structure, warmth, emotional support and positive reinforcement, and positive support from other adults outside their immediate family, such as relatives, family friends and teachers.
Providing children with an environment in which they feel both physically and psychologically safe is an important priority.
The risks to child development associated with exposure to family violence do not necessarily stop following the separation of the parents.
This is due to the ongoing risk of family violence and its impact on parenting practices.
The time around separation is a high risk period for victims of family violence, particularly when there has been a history of coercive and controlling violence.
This can also be a time when family violence first occurs.
Parenting plans that promote the safety and healthy adjustment of children are needed.